Whose life are you living?


Working with a client over the past few weeks that came to the realisation they were not being true to what they wanted out of life, I was reminded of the times in my own life.  Times when I made choices, that although they were my choices to make, in reality I made my decision based on what ‘I thought’ others wanted me to say or do; my parents, siblings, partners, work colleagues, friends, the list goes on.

For some people the simplest of everyday tasks get ‘hijacked’ by others needs, you start the day with a list of what you need to achieve and someone asks you to help them out, suddenly you’ve spent the day working with the other person and not fulfilling any of your own needs.  For others it’s a career choice that you make with your parents/partners wishes taking priority; for example ‘a good secure job that will pay the mortgage’.

Take a moment to reflect on the choices you have made today, now think about the bigger choices you have made in 2016, how about the last 5 years?

If you have taken the time to read this post then please be reminded that you are on your own journey, to fulfil your own dreams.  The choices you make should be true to you and your desires.  Remember all of your choices shape your journey, take responsibility for them and make them with peace in your heart and a smile on your face.

So I leave you with this though;

Are you willing to stop ‘people-pleasing’ today? The best way to honour yourself is to say no when you mean no, and yes when you really want to say yes! – Iyanla Vansant.